I am a Stay At Home Mom. That has been my job. I have loved it and have prided myself on being pretty good at it. I have taken the role seriously and have had a great partner to help me do it. I am thankful that I have been able to stay home with my boys.
Yesterday was not a good day. I have a senior and we found out that we will not be having a traditional graduation ceremony based off the recommendations from our state. It was yet another heart break for this mama. You see, I have been waiting for graduation. It was going to be magnificent. All the award ceremonies and pomp and circumstance of senior year. Finally, I could host the party celebrating my son and all the hard work that has gone on these last 13 years. I know all parents want this for their kids, but I think this SAHM wanted it for herself too. You see, I don’t get too many awards or accolades for my job. My husband gets them all the time. Don’t get me wrong my family thanks me and appreciates me but graduation was going to be my icing on the cake and closure for a mom job well done. It was going to be the send off to adulthood.
Now that is going to look different. I am sad about that. I am sad that I didn’t get to have the Mother/Son dance, sad he had his 18th birthday at home and not at the casino which is a right of passage, sad I don’t get to watch him be the captain of his golf team this spring, sad I don’t have to reprimand him for coming home late because he was out with his friends who are all great kids. I am sad that our country has made this pandemic which started off as a safety issue into a political issue which has made me question why my son and his classmates are missing out on their spring. I know we need to keep people safe but yesterday my heart was broken yet again so it was a bad day.
But, I am a mama and today I get up knowing that I will choose to focus on the positive. I will pivot and make these upcoming celebrations and milestones memorable for my son even if they don’t look how I envisioned it in my head. I will exercise, I will go celebrate the birthday of a dear friend in a car parade and I will cook dinner because that is what mamas do.
Most everyone who knows our family knows we love Hawaii. It is our happy place! We were SO fortunate to get our spring break trip in this year before the craziness that is now our new normal. Brady brought along two friends since it was his senior year spring break and we had an amazing time. We saw whales, swam in the ocean and played by the beach. We went to a luau at the Old Lahaina Luau which I highly recommend. But mostly we spent time together as an Ohana in a place that is magical for our family. While we may not be able to travel for awhile and the world seems out of sorts, I know that once this craziness ends and life begins to go back to normal we will get back to our happy place and once again play in the ocean and be by the beach. Aloha!
How cute is this flower arrangement I received from my friend today? The girl has breast cancer and I accompanied her to her chemo treatment and this was my thank you. She not only is my badass friend who is kicking cancer in the #ss, she is also one of the most thoughtful gift givers I know. The company the flowers are from is Farmgirl Flowers. Go check them out at farmgirlflowers.com. #fgflove.
Last night my younger son had his final band concert of middle school. He will be going to high school in the fall. My older son met us there because he was just getting back from a golf match. Yes, he is driving! The past couple of weeks, I have had these moments of pause because life rolls along and all of a sudden it happens, you have a son who drives and a family who is growing and thriving but you panic a little because you hope you are savoring the moment. Motherhood is full of surprising things, but what has stopped me in my tracks as of late has been my awe of what enjoyable young men we are raising. After the concert we went to dinner as a family. The boys drove in one car and Gary and I in the other. The meal was delicious but most importantly we pressed paused for a moment to enjoy and savor our life as a family that is growing up and changing. While I will spend time this Mother’s Day weekend at a baseball tournament, I hope to press pause at least a few times and savor this life of being a mama to my two boys who still know how to press all my buttons but who most importantly are becoming great human beings!
Everyone loves a meal that is easy to throw together and super tasty. Especially when everyone is running in different directions. This Kalua Pork is super easy to prep and tastes just like you are in Hawaii.
4 lb. Pork Butt (I’m using a pork shoulder today)
1 cup water
1 TBSP Hawaiian salt (Can be ordered online or picked up at World Market)
1 TSBP Liquid Smoke
Put in water, then roast. Sprinkle salt on top and then pour on liquid smoke. Cook in crockpot on low for 8-12 hours. Shred with a fork and leave in juices. May serve on a roll or just eat plain. Enjoy!!
Raising teenage boys makes for many an interesting school morning. Today the sun was out, I had a good night sleep and was ready to go after my cup of coffee. Ah, insert tired, slow moving 15 1/2 year old. Bagel out and ready for consumption and there it sat for rest of morning. I have learned slowly to pick my nag times and let me tell you, the morning rush is NOT it. Instead of commenting about the uneaten food, I calmly offered a ride to the bus and took a deep breath reminding myself that yes is might be a wacky Wednesday in our house, but it is also wonderful because we made it halfway through the week and now I get to have the peanut butter bagel for breakfast!
Thanks for stopping by. Starting a new journey where I will have a blog all about being real. Let’s face it we wear many hats as women and as we age and our families grow and change it is always good to stop and make sure we are being as real as we can be.